Benching
Using a person as a backup date
Example
I think she's benching me, she barely even texts me anymore
Related Slang
Player | A person who manipulates others for their own gain |
Mack | To flirt |
Shawty | A fine female |
Spit | To flirt |
Booty call | An intimate rendezvous |
Cupcaking | Flirting |
BAE | Before anyone else |
Soft launch | Teasing a new relationship on social media |
Benching is when a person uses someone as a backup date in case a better option falls through. Benching most often occurs in the dating world but may also apply to friendships.
The term comes from sports where a person on the bench is good enough to not get cut but not good enough to make the starting lineup. In regards to dating or friendships, when a person benches someone he is saying that the person is likable enough to be kept around but not enough to get more attention. It typically manifests itself in communication that is infrequent but consistent. It's just enough to keep someone interested.