What does benching mean?

Using a person as a backup date

Benching is when a person uses someone as a backup date in case a better option falls through. Benching most often occurs in the dating world but may also apply to friendships.

The term comes from sports where a person on the bench is good enough to not get cut but not good enough to make the starting lineup. In regards to dating or friendships, when a person benches someone he is saying that the person is likable enough to be kept around but not enough to get more attention. It typically manifests itself in communication that is infrequent but consistent. It's just enough to keep someone interested.


I think she's benching me, she barely even texts me anymore

When you realize bae is benching you

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Updated March 24, 2017

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