Pick Me

What is a pick me?

A person desperate for attention and approval

A pick me is a person, typically a female, desperate for another person's, often a male's, attention or approval. Most people use it to describe how some women promote misogyny to appear more attractive to men than other women.

The origins of pick me are unclear, but it most likely comes from a line in Grey's Anatomy that appeared in a 2005 episode. In season 2, episode 5, Meredith Grey pleads to Derek Shepherd, "Pick me, choose me, love me." The line became iconic partially because feminists criticized her character for desperately begging a man to love her.

In 2016, #TweetLikeAPickMe went trending on Twitter, encouraging users to tweet out examples of something a pick me would say. The hashtag then gained popularity again in 2018 on Twitter and again on TikTok in 2020 as users called out pick me behavior in females.

Examples of pick me behavior

If you are so desperate for someone's approval that you act like someone you are not and forfeit your principles, you act like a pick me. People often use the term to criticize women who support misogynist views to stand out from other women to appeal to men.

For example, a "pick me girl" might tell a guy that "feminism is just a bunch of frustrated women hating on men." Or, a pick me girl may propagate a subservient posture towards men and act helpless and vulnerable.


Chelsea is such a pick me
Yeah, she has set back the women's movement 50 years
#TweetLikeAPickMe example
#TweetLikeAPickMe example

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Updated February 9, 2022

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