What is harballing?

Voicing expectations before the first date

Hardballing is a dating trend where single people express their expectations before going on a first date with someone. People employ the technique so they only date others with similar relationship goals and do not waste time.

The trend became popular in December 2021 and derived from "playing hardball," which is when a person acts aggressively to get what they want. Of course, people have been hardballing long before 2021, but the trend became popular among Gen Zers (people born between 1997 and 2012) as a refreshing change of pace that counters the fake lives projected on social media.

Examples of hardballing questions include asking if a potential romantic partner wants kids, their goals for the next five years, and what their political/religious beliefs are. Keep in mind that hardballing may scare people off that are expecting extreme honesty.


Katie began hardballing all of her dates because she wasted 6 months with that idiot Brad.
Oh man, that guy was a total waste of time.

Hardballing a potential BF

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Updated June 21, 2022

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